Yes, sir we all know the saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me”. A child who has been bullied for the better half of her life knows that others will throw sticks, stones and kick her when she is down. What the bully doesn’t know or never understood was that broken bones heal.
In my childhood years I was bullied as a kid. For instance, I would run, hide and cry. Til this day, I remember when a group of neighborhood kids taunted me everyday and would follow me home. A large group would stand right outside our front door and some would be screaming profanities outside my window. Every single day this would happen. As soon as I got off the bus to walk home. I would try to stand up for myself but I couldn’t. There were too many of them and only one of me. Yes, sometimes the cops were involved but that didn’t really do much but make the matter worse. I had no choice but to put up a wall and grow some thick skin.
Do you realize that disrespect is an understatement, you actually bullied another human being. I’m sure you never looked at it that way and I know this is going to hit you hard. You have never looked at yourself as a bully nor have you ever wanted to treat people in that manner. To think that someone you care about looks at you as a bully. I’m sorry, you know the truth hurts and I know you want the truth no matter how hurtful it is. Your lies only coated the pain. Your name calling only made you feel worse about yourself in the end. Those sticks, those stones they broke my bones but your name calling never hurt me.
I approached you with respect from the moment I introduced myself. I even approached you formally with your given name. “Good afternoon Mr. or Mrs. and so on”. I praised you and the accomplishments you had achieved. Still, you threw sticks and stones at me. You broke my bones to test me and see what I was made of. As I put together all the broken pieces to rebuild my backbone, understand that I have so much respect for you that it hurts me to hurt you. I know my strength and even now, I hold it together out of respect for you. Now I ask you, do you see the strength of someone who has been hit with sticks and stones?
Sticks and stones will build your thrones but love lives ever after.
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Captivated with the scars of the sun’s heat and tamed by the golden belt buckle. She was a toddler then. Too young to remember but lived with the mark. Some would say she was too feisty as a child and wouldn’t listen. Others say her stubborn and independent ways would become useful as she got older. To live a life of pain and torture, she felt it was always best to give others a fighting chance. Never wanting another human being to ever feel her pain. She knew scars healed on the outside and were harder to heal on the inside.
Thru the years, many scars healed but one always remained. At times she would feel self-conscious. Not wanting others to know she lived with this scar, she would keep it covered at all times. As she developed into her teen years, she was able to cover it with her bra and bra strap.
Alone in her room reflecting
“Holy Shit” she said out loud. “I can’t believe I climaxed so many times in just one night!” I have had consistently great sex but last night takes the cake. Maybe I have short term memory but this feeling I have is completely untouchable. She remembered going to her room alone after the concert. So who was it that pleased her with so much pleasure? “I know I drank a little too much last night, but I don’t remember inviting anyone in for a night cap”. She was perplexed but she really didn’t care because she had a total body sensation that made her feel entirely relaxed. She had orgasmed so many times, all of the stress and tension must have been released.
While in the shower, she started laughing to herself. Just then she realized she had purchased a new vibrator for her anniversary night with her husband. She must have tried it out last night. “Wow, it worked wonders”, she said to herself.
Was it wrong to have so much pleasure?
As her hang over wore off, she started to realize that it wasn’t just the vibrator that made her feel so good. It was the fantasies she was having about the great looking guy she bumped into. “Oh my God” she said to herself. “This is wrong, this is very wrong. I am a married woman. What will my husband think? Today is our anniversary.” Her mind was completely confused. She really really enjoyed her fantasies beyond measure. She felt great physically, but mentally she was torn. “If anyone finds out I was having fantasies of another man other than my husband, I will go to hell.” Furthermore, it goes completely against the vows of matrimony. And how ironic, it was her 6th year wedding anniversary. She began to feel ashamed of herself.
Fantasy mirrors desire. Imagination reshapes it.
Mason Cooley
Like a dog on a leash, her mind would only travel so far before returning back to reality. Not only did she sit their waiting for her husband to arrive but also would think about the mystery guy over and over again. “Why does he keep popping into my head. It’s not like I know him”. Is it possible to be attracted to someone without knowing anything about them?
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Sheri what is wrong with you? Why are you so complicated? Girl, you are so emotional. You need to just let that shit go. My answer for that is, why all of a sudden does it bother you and what’s wrong with being a complicated beauty?
Oh Honey, I know you wish you could have my looks, my style and my brains. LOL!! Yeah, well truth is, their is only one Sheri. I have my own look, my own style and my own brains. Furthermore, I have multiple personalities that keep you, your family and friends entertained. No wonder they keep coming back for more.
What does complicated mean?
At first when looking up the definition, I found that it involves complications. Duh, no really!! In other words, consisting of interconnecting parts. But Sheri, what does that mean? Clearly it means a circumstance that complicates something. Right! Well in short, it means difficulties. For instance, let’s say you are going about your day with routine activities and all of a sudden a global pandemic hits. As a result of this circumstance beyond your control, you are now faced with difficulties and your world becomes complicated. Was that a good example?
Or you are walking down the street minding your own business and bam, some great looking guy bumps into you and asks you out for coffee or some kind of drink. It doesn’t need to be an alcoholic beverage. Any drink, I don’t know, just pick a drink. Next thing you know, he’s asking you to marry him and you have only known him for like two weeks? This can be a very complicated situation here people. What if the girl is already currently married and living a double life? And he’s a friggen spy like James Bond in 007 where everything he touches turns to gold. He constantly makes millions of dollars. Possibly on the verge of becoming a billionaire. Did you ever think that having the Midas touch could scare a woman away?
The complicated lovers
No, I didn’t think so. But still, they seem to gravitate towards one another. She says “no, I can’t”. He says “but why not? Any woman would want this fabulously shining looking coin.” Again, she says “I’m sorry, I just can’t.” Then, he’s like “Fuck you bitch, your loss”. Needless to say, she cried about it. She was like, “doesn’t he understand that I have all of these external factors to work thru”. He’s like “I don’t give a rats ass what you have to work thru. You either want it or you don’t.” She was like, “Well Fuck you too then, I’m gonna go handle my business with or without you.” He thru his hands up in the air, shook his head and said “Fine, I didn’t want you anyway”. Why is everything so complicated?
What is the meaning of beauty?
Beauty is defined as a combination of qualities. Specifically, shape, form or color that entices the human sense of eyesight. For example, the dress I saw in the window would look good on me. Therefore, I will be seen as a beauty. Notice how I used the word “saw” and “look”. It focuses on what the eyes see in appearances. So if it looks good on the hanger, than it will look good on me…LOL!! Another way to understand beauty is with the word vision. This is defined as the ability to use your eyes to see and interpret the world around you.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Margaret Wolfe Hungerford
Basically eyesight in this blog is focusing on the first impression of how something makes you feel when you first see it whereas vision is a deeper thought process. For example, Clark Kent vs Superman. Clark wears glasses and appears to be a clumsy ordinary man. Superman, has x-ray vision and can see into a person, like his or her soul. LOL!!
“But Grandmother! What big eyes you have,” said Little Red Riding Hood. “The better to see you with, my dear,” replied the wolf
What then is a complicated beauty?
A complicated beauty is the guacamole of circumstances and difficulties that are mixed with a combination of qualities. I said quality not quantity. I would say a complicated beauty is like a multitude of characteristics. Maybe I am a chameleon that camouflages myself or better yet, maybe I’m like a deer that is swift and compassionate. Personally, I like to think of myself as a complicated beauty. Indeed, that is only one of the many reasons why you like me. I know, I see you smiling. Based on my beauty blog definition, your teeth would be something we would see with our eyes. It’s not like I have x-ray vision into the mouth. The soul maybe. I’ll let you keep guessing on that one. But you already know.
Back to our complicated lovers
Now back to our complicated lovers. Yes, I said lovers. Because that is what they are. They can’t seem to be happy without one another and they can’t seem to be comfortable with each other. Where is the happy medium? They are completely beautifully complicated individuals who have complicated lives and yet they each have a special gift that no one else could ever understand but the two of them. Do they love each other? Why can’t they just walk away, let go and move on? Because, the string that keeps them connected won’t let them stray to far off their path. Some days she finds herself smiling with complete joy knowing that he’s pissing her off. At the same time, she’s frustrated because her animalistic side wants to devour him. Shall I continue with our complicated beauty series?
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I thought it would be fun to do a little get to know me ice breaker questions and answers. I found some questions on the internet regarding vulnerability and thought why not try it. Obviously these questions will not give a complete overview of Sheri. However, they may help as a way to connect especially when you are meeting with someone new. I consider them as a way to break the ice.
Dine and Dash at a Restaurant?
Have you ever Dine and Dashed at a Restaurant? I would have to say, no I have not. I started working in a seafood restaurant when I was 12yrs old. When I was in high school, I would go to work at 6am bussing tables at a breakfast nook and by 3 pm I would walk across the street and work in the seafood restaurant until 11pm. Understanding the hustle and bustle of cooking and feeding people, I did not feel it ever necessary to dine somewhere and then dash without paying for the service.
2. Would you rather have been in the Marching band or the Debate team in school? It is safe to say that I was in the band and on the debate team. I played the flute in 7th & 8th grade as part of the band. I was on the debate team in Jr. High and was on the Mock Trail Team in 9th and 10th grade.
3.If you could find out how you were going to die, would you want to know? I do not want to know, however I already have a feeling that I know how I am going to die. When I was little, I would have this dream that was buried alive in a wooden box. As I got older it became clear to me that I will die of suffocation. I still think about it now with the asthma and just wanting oxygen.
Steal or Shoplifted?
4.What was the last thing you stole or shoplifted. I guess you could say the last thing I stole was someone’s heart. Other than that, I am not into stealing and have never shop lifted. I have a habit of getting caught.
5. Would you rather vacation in Mexico or Alaska, and Why? I would love to visit Alaska, but I would prefer to vacation in Mexico. Their is something about the style and the feeling I get when it comes to Mexico. For instance, I have only been to Tijuana. When I was 18, I moved out to Arizona. This was 3 days after graduation to live with my dad, step mom and little brother. While I was out there, my homegirl was in California for a convention. Basically, I decided to take a bus to meet her in San Diego.
While we were there, we decided to venture to Tijuana. The first time we went, we went to a bar, got drunk and I rode a mechanical bull. I believe I also danced to AC/DC’s “Shook me all night long” on the dance floor by myself. We did not drink the water, so the only thing we drank was alcohol. The second time we went there (the next day basically), we went with a few friends from the military. From what I remember of the night, we went to a nightclub. I also remember making out with one of the guys we went with and then later he told me he was married. Fun times and good memories.
6. Do you like or dislike surprises? I like surprises but they make me cry. I would prefer to know about the surprise so I can be prepared for it. I think surprises give me anxiety. That’s probably because I don’t have any control over it.
Ride a bike, a horse or drive a car?
7. Would you rather ride a bike, ride a horse or drive a car? I would prefer to ride a bike. I have ridden a horse. I rode one at the Grand Canyon. My dad took me riding when he brought me to the Canyon for my very first visit. I can’t remember if I rode a horse when I was younger. The woman we lived with at one time in my life, worked at a stable and won a ton of ribbons for horse riding. I can’t remember if she took us riding or not. Her family owned a stable and that part of my life is a little blurred. Obviously I drive a car, but since I am prone to accidents, I prefer to ride a bike.
8. What’s the tallest building you have been to the top in? I would have to say the tallest building I have been in is the Empire State Building in New York City. I would visit New York City as a kid with my great aunts who lived there. They took us to the Empire State Building, Statue of Liberty and Broadway plays. I did go on a girls trip a few years ago and I wanted to go back up to the top, but we didn’t make it since we were partying too much. My girlfriends did however, take a picture of me in front of the entrance. My girls are funny, they knew I really wanted to go up to the top but we didn’t have time. We made a compromise hence, the picture of me at the bottom entrance.
Well, I hope you enjoyed a few of the ice breaker questions and answers I have provided for you. I might try to do some more in the near future. What do you think?
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When I was a young girl, my grandmother would sit in a rocking chair and have me sit on the floor Indian style in front of her. Without a doubt, I knew she was going to pin curl my hair. In this scenario, I had very long thick native black hair and you can imagine how many hours that would take. Needless to say, grandma enjoyed pin curling my hair. She would sing, yodel and tell me stories of her childhood. After all the pins were in my head, she would then wrap a handkerchief or bandanna over my head to keep the pins from falling out. Even so, when I slept on the pullout couch in the living room, they did not fall out.
My sisters and cousins and I spent most of our summers and weekends at grandma’s house. Obviously, our parents were working daily. For this reason, it’s like we looked after grandma and she looked after us. Little did we know that those memories would last with each one of us forever.
As time went on, I stopped going to grandma’s house. Clearly, you could say things changed in the family. Besides, we got older and grandma got dementia. In short, no more family time and no more pin curls. Thus, no more time with grandma. As I became a teenager, I started to play softball all year long. Additionally, this meant playing in the hot summer sun too. In fact, I recall playing on three teams one summer and working full-time. Because of the summer heat, I started wearing bandannas to help keep my head cool. Specifically, I would dip them in water and than toss on my head.
After graduation, I headed out west to Arizona. Despite having a good home in Narragansett, RI with friends and family, I ventured out of the nest. Along with the need to try something different, I was able to spend time with my dad, step mom and my younger brother. Of course going from the ocean to the desert was not an easy adjustment. I had much to learn about the world and my life. My dad lived in a trailer in the desert. Like for real, the desert. Every day I had to check for rattle snakes, scorpions and tarantulas. This was a place where I would need to wear something over my mouth during sand or dust storms. Yes, they did come thru where I was staying. There is no doubt that bandanna’s and head wraps started becoming apart of my outfits in the desert too.
When I became a mom, I needed to keep my hair up and out of the way of my children’s little fingers. My most precious gems would either pull at my hoop earrings or my hair. Above all, having my hair in a head wrap made it easier for me to maneuver throughout mom hood. Obviously, cooking and cleaning in head wraps became a must. As a result, my hair was in a head wrap most of the time. I guess you could say it became a habit for me to wear them daily. If you don’t see me wearing one, you can know that I at least carry one on me at all times.
I’m so excited to share one of my favorite accessories with all of you. You can find them at www.envision-dream.com. I am even more excited to wear my very own creative versatile head wraps. They do seem tight at first but once you break them in, they look and fit fabulous. I like to color coordinate and sometimes I like to mismatch. Either way, I’m taking grandma’s memories with me on this head wrap journey.Â
Envision Dream Versatile Head Wraps
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Distractions are everywhere and can smother your mind at times.
Are distractions holding you back from going after your goals? A distraction is a process that will block or prohibit an individual from remaining focused on a desired outcome or goal. This definitely happens to the best of us. We have individual dreams and goals and most of the time we get stuck or blocked from being able to accomplish these dreams. I sometimes question myself and ask why?
Have you thought about some distractions that have been or could be blocking your Desired Goals?
Television
Cell phones
Other People’s Opinions
Your Family
Bills/Money
Chores/Responsibilities
Social Activities
Work/Career
What are some ways to handle distractions that are holding you back?
Take a break
Meditation
Exercise
Watch the sun rise and or set
Listen to music
Take a hike in the woods
Try something new
Read a book
Take A Break from Distractions that might be holding you back
Relaxing from distractions in a hotel room on the Waterfront in downtown Baltimore, MD.
When I say take a break from distractions that might be holding you back, I am saying that sometimes we need to step out of the confusion in order to ground or regroup ourselves. For example, I like to take mini vacations to regroup. Specifically, I will go stay in a hotel for a night or two completely by myself. Some may call it solitude. To me, I get the rest I need. I am able to think about me as an individual and it allows me to figure out what I need to do in order to continue going after my goals. In addition to the rest, I am able to gain the energy that is needed to stay focused with the constant waves of everyday life challenges.
How can meditation help you from getting distracted?
Yoga Muriel at RI Yoga Center in Kingston, RI when I took my first Hot Power Yoga Class to help with my breathing and meditation techniques
Meditation is a technique used to help us as individuals to focus on mental clarity and awareness. If our minds are filled with other people’s opinions than maybe that means we are focused on other’s goals and not necessarily our own goals. However, I do feel that it is always good to listen to other people’s opinions but being able to decipher what will help guide you and what will hinder you are two different things. It has taken me a long time to learn from trials and errors thru life experiences that have gotten me to a place where I will listen to what other’s have to say, but in reality I will try my best to remain focused on me, the individual.
Is exercise a good way to handle distractions that may hold you back?
Exercise in itself is a must for a healthy and well balanced lifestyle. For instance, not only does exercise help with oxygen and blood flow through our veins and muscles to keep our blood pumping, it also helps to release negative toxins that may be trapped in our minds and bodies. For example, running can build your inner core strength, as well as, get rid of stomach fat and release endorphins that make you a happy person.
elevate barre and cycle studio has been a life savor for allowing me to exercise at my own pace. Personal Trainer, owner and my sister Sara Loretta has encouraged me to follow my dreams and become healthy at the same time. We both enjoy a variety of music which makes it fun.
I am not an expert on exercise and yes I need to get into a routine of finding an exercise that I enjoy doing. However, I do believe in the benefits for exercising. So the question you might have for me that I have for myself, is what is holding Sheri back from doing exercise if she knows she needs to and it will benefit her? I too am working on my own distractions. Handling one distraction at a time.
I’m a sucker for big old fashioned head phones. My favorite part is that they are Noise Canceling. Even better when you wear them, everyone still thinks you are listening to them and really you are drowning them out. My little secret. Beats Studio3
Listening to Music to distract my mind from distractions
First and foremost, music is one of the biggest forms of salvation for me. No matter what I am feeling or doing, music has an effect on me. Second, music is a very powerful tool that I use in many forms. For instance, I listen to music when I am happy, mad and sad. However, I enjoy all kinds of music. Third, I like to feel the music move through my body and feed into my soul. It can capture the pure essence of my being. Fourth, I enjoy listening to music to help me meditate. Specifically, it gets me in a zone to release anger or sadness that has been suppressed deep down inside. Fifth, music can be used as a form of expression. For example, when I try to sing like the artist or if I am dancing to the beat.
Singing and acting a fool to release my stress is one way I clear my mind from distractions. When the right beat hits my soul, forget about it. I don’t care who is around, I get lost in my own world. You know the saying “Dance as if no one is Watching”. I live that to my greatest potential.
Moreover, I drive with music, clean with music, exercise with music, sleep with music, socialize with music and I am sure you are getting the idea of the benefits of music with me. How does music have an affect on your own life and well being?
What about trying something new to help with distractions
Trying something new can also be a distraction, however for this blog we are looking at the benefits of trying something new to help with handling our distractions. For instance, if we never try something we have never done before, than how are we going to expand our minds that will help us reach our dreams and goals? For example, if you are open to learning a new culture or craft, you are now stimulating your brain cells.
Wine and Paint Night. My mom, big sis and my only daughter had a great night out, spending time together and trying something new.
Specifically, let’s look at paint and wine nights, that is one of the new craves going around. I could be behind on craves, but you get the idea. People are gathering together with old friends and meeting new friends while they are in a class learning how to paint a picture. As a result of an event like this, most people who finish this class are usually leaving with a smile on their faces. Specifically, they are feeling good about what they were able to learn on their own, amazed that they had the ability to create something of their own and they connected with someone new. I am sure the wine helped them to relax and open up a little bit. Hopefully you get the point.
In Conclusion Have You Thought About The Distractions in Your Own Life?
I know that we sometimes don’t want to look at reality and what is holding us back from truly going after our own dreams and goals. I do this all the time. Its called denial and we will distract ourselves and continue to distract ourselves until we are forced to look at the situation.
This picture is dark and gloomy, but isn’t that what a distraction can look like to someone who is confused? No soul, no direction, no reason for motivation.
What happens when we are in denial of many different situations? That’s a great question and it is a hard one to learn. I personally am working on figuring out what my own dreams and goals are. Specifically, taking the time in solitude to really focus on what I want for my life. In addition to this time for solitude, I continue to focus on handling my personal situations head on since they will not resolve themselves on their own. As a result to this understanding, I have learned that I am sensitive to some distractions and completely cold to other distractions.
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Some say daily struggles can either help or hinder us. The Value of “Life Happens” not to you but for you. Yes, I’m hit with obstacles every day and sometimes, minute by minute and hour by hour. This could be the reason why our daily struggles can leave us feeling ripped, worn and torn finding it hard to move forward. Some days I need to put a shield around me to protect myself. I’m not saying I’m in danger but from time to time I see everything that is happening around me. Losing loved ones tragically and peacefully. Struggling to pay bills and dealing with getting by pay check to pay check. Wondering if their is more to life than what is right in front of me. Knowing that I have the ability to do and create the life I want. Worried about my children and praying they are strong enough to handle what the world throws at them. Hoping that everyone will get along and not start knife fighting over who drank the last beer. Helping a friend who may have just gotten out of jail, or fighting the mental disease of bipolar and drugs. Understanding the reason why some may hustle in the late hours selling drugs to provide for their family because they can’t get out or off the system.
Handle Yourself with Care
The day to day struggle is no different for you or me. It’s how we are able to handle the storm that is ripping us apart and tearing us limb to limb knowing that we are already worn out when it hits.
Ripped, worn and torn blue jeans is an example of how daily struggles can affect us on the inside. Taken in the Financial District of New York City September 2019
No, I’m not talking about clothes. Some could think I’m shopping for stressed out, white washed, cut off jeans. Not today. It’s not a bad idea and I could use some new clothes. School shopping is just around the corner. This year will be different though. All three of my children are working and I’m teaching them to put away their paycheck and get through the week with their tips. Little do they know they will be purchasing their own school clothes, shoes and supplies this year. I’m sure they will feel the daily struggles are both hindering and helping them at the same time. I’ve waited a long time for this. It’s important for me to teach them the basics of how to manage their hard worked income now that they are in the game of more month than cash. They will feel ripped, worn and torn by the end of the summer.
I Say Bring On The Storm So I Can Help Myself To Conquer These Daily Struggles
We’ve Got Our Shields All Around Us. Use your Shield of Armor to fight your daily struggles
So what does it mean when I say that daily struggles can leave us feeling ripped, worn and torn finding it hard to move forward? Have you ever looked at your self standing firmly on the ground and looked up to see the tornado storm whipping around you mixed with debris? Yes, this is an exaggeration but think with me here. This storm can either hinder you or help you. How, you might ask? This storm will show you how much strength you have inside you to fight to stay alive, that will help you to see how strong you really are.
Perseverance is Key
If you can fight with all your might against all the bull crap that storm is throwing at you, then you can do anything you put your mind and heart to. Nothing is stopping you from doing what you want to do except you. You have a force shield around you, looking like a human standing in the middle of a bubble. You know that debris (bull crap) will not hit you or damage you. In fact, you know that any debris (bull crap) that flies towards you, it will be bounced off that force shield. You also know that your feet are safe and firmly on the ground. You need to tell yourself, I am not ripped, worn and torn, I am stronger than any storm.
People only do what you allow them to do
On the other hand, you can let and allow all the gossip, drama and bull crap get to you and bring you down. That is what it means when they say it can hinder you. Basically it stops you from succeeding and doing what you know you can do. It gives you doubt. Do you believe that “no weapon formed against me shall prosper”? A storm in this case is the weapon and you will have courage and strength within yourself to not let it break you. Stand tall in who you are. Remember the storm will pass but you my friend will still be standing strong.
While one may be struggling to survive the daily turmoil, others are putting their own lives on the line to help the struggling party. Team Rescue at Narragansett Beach during Hurricane Earl 2010
No matter how ripped, worn and torn we feel, we are stronger than any force field. Everyday we strive for happiness. Everyday another loved one or friend is hurting with sadness. Why do they say death happens in threes. I have not researched that yet but I’m sure it has something to do with our seeds. Togetherness and unity is what keeps us strong. Why then I must ask you do you feel ripped, worn and torn? “It’s not why is this happening to me, but what is this teaching me?” If “like attracts like” then as we grow we bond with those who wish to work together and are striving for the same thing. Support is all around you. It may not be within your immediate family and that is OK.
Being Grateful for what and who you have in your life
Support comes in all shapes, colors and sizes. You never know who will be there for you and who will risk their own lives to help save you. Be grateful that you were born for a reason and you have a purpose. No two lights shine the same. But all in all we are all living in the same game. Generation to generation and we see that the times have all changed. Ripped, worn and torn I am here to master my own game. Yet, still some believe that daily struggles can leave us feeling ripped, worn and tornfinding it hard to move forward.
Do you agree that our daily struggles can either hinder or help us? Are you feeling ripped, worn and torn about everything?
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I have always believed in capturing the moments and making them into memories. Not only do I enjoy doing it, but it allows my mind to be creative. I also look at my life through the eyes of my casket. Please don’t be shocked by that, it helps me to put things into perspective and we never know when our time will be up. Since I have lost friends and family members at an early age, I tend to think about these things. Don’t we say “Life is Short“, Right? What will my children remember about me and what memories would they have to remember me by? What gifts and lessons can I leave them so that when I am not here they will be able to see what I have taught them and can utilize the tool and wisdom I have left for them.
How do I keep my memories? I enjoy taking pictures, scrap booking, making photo collages, videos, etc. I’m sure their are more ways to create memories, I am naming the ones I do and as I learn more, my creativity will evolve too.
Why Do I Enjoy Dancing to Music?
Family Roots and Traditions
Great question and aside from loving all kinds of music, I was always taught to “dance as if know one is watching“. I created a lot of memories with my children, friends and family throughout the years just by listening to music and dancing. Dancing to Music is another way to tell a story and express yourself. Dancing is healthy for you too! It helps you to move your body, sweat, exercise, connect with people and just have fun. These are some of the places I tend to dance with music:
Dancing in the living room
Dancing by the car
Dancing in the car
Dancing at the bar
Dancing in the club
Dancing at a concert
Dancing at a wedding
Dancing in a seat
Dancing at the campsite
Dancing down the street
Dancing on the beach
Dancing alone
Dancing with someone else
Dancing in a group
Why Add Music To My Memories?
Keeping the Memories Alive
I have learned that music helps you to remember and tells a story. If I associate music with my memories than I will be able to remember the beauty I have created with my life. Since my grandmother had Alzheimer’s and I work with people who have a memory impairment, I try to focus on keeping my brain stimulated. If music helps us to recall events in our lives, than I prefer to keep my memories alive. Thank you for learning about my timeline. They also say your timeline is the dash placed between your date of birth and your date of death. 1976-(unknown).
I Say Music Is My Soul
Because it is the book of my own life and my own memory! What’s your story or timeline? Do you believe music and memories go hand in hand?
Having technical difficulty with my mind as I take on a new endeavor. Specifically, starting a new entrepreneur business on my own started to leave me feeling discouraged at first. However, the more I educate and train myself the more I am learning I never knew, I never knew.
What will I do? Technical difficulty with my mind
Starting a new endeavor can leave you feeling technically lost at first.
For instance, I had decided to start my own blog this past summer. At first, I was so discouraged because their was a lot I needed to learn with starting a blog on the internet. In general, just starting my own blog whether it is for personal journal entries or a new business takes a lot of time to configure your own website. It was my own personal preference to creating my own website. Of course you can hire a professional to do it for you. However for me, that will just add to the start up cost.
Saving up for Rose Gold Dell XLP 9370 Laptop-working my way up from a smart phone to a blogging travel computer
I am not a professional blogger and I am just beginning my new endeavor so why would I just jump into putting a ton of money into something I don’t know works yet. On the other hand, it takes money to make money they say. However, if I am just beginning, I believe that over time and as my knowledge and experience grows, I will be able to add more features into my blogging website. Specifically, I really feel that if I am going to put my best foot forward with creating my own Brand, it is best that I learn how to create my own website. This is just a personal preference.
I first started taking videos and pictures for my blogging website with an android and then upgraded to the the Google Pixel 3
Whenever I am contemplating an idea, I tend to talk to myself. For instance I said to myself, “the more I learn how to do on my own, the less money I will have to pay out of pocket down the road”. Again, this is personal preference. On the contrary, my sister likes to pay all the upfront costs and just get it over with so her website would be up and running in no time. As a result, this option allows her more time to just focus on creating and maintaining her brand. I recommend that an individual has the right to pick the option that is best for them and hopefully it won’t break the bank either.
Traveling to the Unknown Destination-Technical Difficulty with my mind
Reflecting on technical difficulties with my mind
In the above photo I took, I was on an airplane on my way to Hawaii for the very first time in my life. Hawaii was a place I have always wanted to travel to since I was a kid. I worked really hard to make my dream come true. However, as I was sitting there pondering over and over again in my head, I started thinking and thinking. Specifically, I was reflecting on my life at that moment.
You might need some Sunglasses for your airplane ride, how about protecting them in a Dream Catcher hard shell case. Remember those dreams
Where do I see myself in 5 years or 10 years from now?
What is holding me back?
Committing to one direction or the other
It’s like having one foot in the sand and one foot in the water at the same time. To me this means that you are not fully in the water or fully on the warm sand with both feet or your whole body. A lot of times we go back and forth with our decisions. Specifically we ask ourselves, Do I do this? Do I not do this? What happens if I jump right into the water/project? What happens if I stay on the beach and not go into the water at all? Decisions, Decisions, Decisions! I believe it’s normal to have these conflicting thoughts with yourself. Sooner or later we need to commit to one direction or the other. This is something you need to figure out for yourself. No one knows you better than you.
The Sunlight is still peaking thru as it sets-Clearing the technical difficulty with my mind
Do you have trouble deciding what you want to do? Do you agree that you get stuck sometimes? Got to start somewhere! Why not start now?
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Let’s start with the traditional meaning of what is a dream catcher and what does it mean to catch dreams? Specifically, the meaning of dream catchers comes from the Original Natives or in my knowledge Indigenous People of this land we call America.
In addition, each tribe or tribal nation have a different cultural meaning and they also have their own legend of the dream catcher’s purpose. Above all, it is believed that when you hang a dream catcher over your bed it will catch the bad dreams and let the good dreams pass thru.
Obviously for this purpose, bad dreams not knowing their way, are caught in the web and melt away in the first light of morning. In this case, the first light of morning represents the sun’s light.
Specifically, the sun’s light will burn away the bad dreams that are caught in the web. As a result of getting caught in the web, the bad dreams will be no more. Where as, the good dreams will slip thru the web and slide down the feathers. Finally, flowing down into the dreamer.
I’m a firm believer in following your dreams so let’s make sure they are good dreams
My very first dream catcher made of twigs
My fascination with dream catchers began at a young age. Specifically, I would and still do collect them from different places. Firstly, they came from Native American Indian Pow Wows. As well as, visits to Indian Reservations from Rhode Island, Connecticut, Arizona, Massachusetts, New York, Florida and Hawaii. Such as, the one in the picture above is made out of sticks and twigs. It was the first dream catcher I ever bought myself.
Needless to say, I was working with family tribal members of the Narragansett Indian Tribe at the International Indian Pow Wow in Connecticut on the Mashantucket Pequot Reservation. Ultimately, this dream catcher caught my eye because it was different and it was made from nature. Additionally, over the years friends and family members would give them to me as gifts.
Catching Dreams is part of my fascination with dream catchers
I remember one day, I walked into the house and saw an orchid plant on the kitchen table along with a card nestled up against the pot. Clearly, I opened the card and started to read. At that specific moment my eyes began to fill up with water. At this point, I could feel the tears start to fall down my face. As I read, the words “my dream catcher, always catching dreams and making mine and everyone else’s dreams come true”, it took me a minute to take it all in. At an instant 40 years of my life flashed back and forth before my very soul.
Clearly, I love to help people catch their dreams and make them come true. Of course, their is no guarantee, but when someone let’s me help them, it is possible to make those dreams a reality. It should be noted that the big catcher is, you just don’t know when.
What does dream catching mean to me?
The Girl Behind catching her dreams
I have always believed in the legend of the dream catcher. Every dream I have ever wished has come true. Don’t get me wrong, I have put in a lot of sweat and tears to get to where I am today. It all started with a dream and a girl behind the dream.
Could you believe in the legend of the dream catcher? Would you believe in your dreams? Do you believe in yourself?
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