Our First Child-Surprise I have A Girl

Our first born child together was a 6 lb 2 oz little baby girl. The first child I carried for nine months and the first child I gave birth to. The first time I became a mother. I remember the joys of learning that I was pregnant and no job and no where to live to raise a child. Sure we would bunk at our friends and families houses to have a roof over our heads and food to eat. The panic set in to find a home to raise our little princess in. Sick as a dog, throwing up morning, noon and night with morning sickness right up until the day I gave birth. These were the good old days, I tell ya. We were both young right out of high school and thought we knew it all. I ended up losing 25 lbs from being pregnant. Who would have thought you could lose weight while a human was growing in your body? Apparently the doctor’s would say, “that baby is taking all the food you consume”. I don’t know how, because every time I ate, I would be in the bathroom sick again. It did turn out that I needed to have gallbladder surgery a couple of weeks after giving birth to my first child (at the time Jim Carey was filming across the street from where we were staying for Me, Myself and Irene . No, I did not meet him, I was in the hospital but my little girl got to see him.

Needless to say, my pregnancy was definitely a challenge: Health Wise, Parent Wise and Financially Wise. My baby daddy already had a 3 year old at the time our little princess was born. In fact her older brother is one of her best friends. Her brother moved in with us at the age of 3, so when I became a first time mom to my little girl, I also became a mom to a little boy and was now raising two children. Thank the Lord for family and friends because they really helped to guide me thru all of this. I cherish my baby girl because she is the key to getting her parents motivated to provide for her and her siblings. A few months after she was born, I began to work again and we were able to get our first apartment.

Our Second Child-Surprise Daddy’s Twin

After a year of having a beautiful tiny little girl and a step son, I realized one day, that I was really tired and yelling at my mother outside of her house. In fact, she stopped dead in her tracks and said “Sher, are you pregnant?” I said, “NO, I am on the patch birth control”. She said, “Are you sure?”, I said “Mom, yes I am sure”!! I should have realized that mother knows best. I went and got a pregnancy test and the results “YES, YOU ARE PREGNANT“. But how can I be pregnant, I’m on birth control. Well apparently to my surprise, if you are on an antibiotic for bronchitis, the birth control will not work said the doctor. So here I am, 5 months pregnant and I just found out that in 4 months I will be having another baby. Good news with my baby boy, I did not get sick and was able to work thru this pregnancy. The challenge was on to get everything ready for my 4/20 child who had me in labor for four hours and 20 minutes. Labor with this child was excruciating. I actually took the dam needle in the back and needed oxygen. My baby daddy decided to go to wok in Boston that morning while I went to the hospital. He did make it in time to catch the boy as he came out. I’ll give him that.

So here we are two young adults, a little baby girl, a little boy and a newborn son. We are on a roll, we have now moved from an apartment to a complete house. We will talk about the house fire in another blog. But it was a great motivator to get out of a duplex and into our own home. Our daughter got her own room and the boys, well they had to share a room. I cherish my baby boy because he turned me into a raging lunatic mom on the side lines cheering for her son for everyone to see. He would get so embarrassed by it too! That’s what moms do, we become your biggest fans.

Our Third Child-Surprise Its A Mini Me

Here we go again, didn’t I learn the first two times. I already have a 7 year old, a 5 year old and a 3 year old. What’s one more? I said to myself, you made it this far. You can keep going. This guy was a little bitty preemie. I thought his sister was tiny, but he was even smaller. Well after this one, I told the doctor, I was done. I am not going through this anymore and since my health was so effected by my pregnancies, my tubes were tied. This was it, I could not have anymore children naturally. It was determined that I was alergic to being pregnant. You like that one, huh? LoL. Snake is my baby. I’m sure the others think he is spoiled, but we spoil them all. This one has challenges of being a small guy, but a big heart. He gives his all when he does something. This one pushes me even harder by teaching me to let go of things I can’t control.

One Baby Daddy = Five Boys and One Girl

Although we as a couple did not make it, we were able to stay a family for our children. My baby daddy found a new love and added two more children to his family. My children have 1 step brother and 2 half brothers from their dad, but reality is they are all siblings regardless of the bloodline. We have been able to share holidays, birthdays, proms, graduations and our kids extra curricular activities together. This is not easy to do, nor has it ever been easy to do, but we manage. As you can see their dad is in the military and serves overseas from time to time. It takes a Village to raise a child and I have a bunch to watch over. This is only a brief introduction to one side of the family.

That’s My Baby Daddy

My reason for working so hard came from these four seeds. All of my accomplishments go to them. My sacrifices, my true loves, my babies. The air that I breathe, the sweat, the tears, the laughter, the fun, the good, the bad, the growth, the memories. I wouldn’t change anything I went through with my pregnancies or my baby daddy. Being a parent is hard work but also a blessing.