Well, I think the act of forgiveness is hard to do because it means having to deal with the pain and hurt that was caused by someone or something that was out of our control.
Controlling our own emotions
In this big world of ours, we cannot control another human being. We can’t control how they feel about us or what they think about us. The only thing we can control is ourselves and how we react to unpleasant situations. Our emotions have so many levels to them. I do feel at times that I am unable to control even my emotions. I mean sometimes we act based on our emotions and at other times we act based on logic.
Balancing our heart and mind
Balancing the mind and the heart at the same time can be tricky. I can assure you that I have not mastered this technique. Sometimes, I am only thinking with my head. On the other hand, at times I am only thinking with my heart. When I use my mind I can control my emotions, but when it is my heart, forget it. I really have no control over my emotions when it comes to the heart. I just follow my feelings. Right or wrong.
Imperfections make us unique
You talk about forgiving you for your imperfections. Why? Your imperfections are a part of who you are. Furthermore, imperfections are what make you unique. Again, no one is perfect. So with that, I am trying to understand where all of this is coming from and why the sudden change of heart? I know it takes time for someone to accept their faults, but let’s understand that I also have flaws and faults. I am not perfect, but I am perfectly perfect in an imperfect way. It’s called being human.
Understanding why forgiveness is important
Again, you continue to ask me to forgive you. I do not understand why? Forgiveness is just as much for you as it is for the other person asking for it. You need to forgive yourself for all the transgressions you have done. This is all part of life and learning and growing. Ya know, a mother doesn’t stop loving her son because he chose to do certain things different than the way she would have done them. In fact, the way I see it is that we need to embrace the opportunities that we were given and accept things just the way they happened. For if they had not happened the way they did, neither of us would have learned and grown from them. Remember a flower takes time to blossom.
If it makes you feel any better “I do forgive you”, the question is “Can you forgive me too”? Our biggest misconception is believing that we know everything when in fact we know that we know nothing (Socrates).
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