Ever feel as though you are talking to a stone wall? I can tell you or yell at you until I am blue in the face. This is what is means to talk to a wall. The person you are trying to speak to is not listening to you because for one they are mad, two they may feel hurt and three they have most likely put up their defenses. I wonder why?
Keep Arguing with a wall
For starters, we can continue to keep arguing so that we both can talk to a wall. I’ll yell my point with no indication of listening to what you have to say. Then you can yell at me to get your point across knowing that I too have my wall up. It’s like it goes in one ear and out the other.
The best is when we are both yelling at each other at the same time. As you can see, we get so much done doing it this way. It makes so much sense to lose so much time and energy yelling at each other’s walls. Doesn’t it? I feel so good inside because I was able to turn blue in the face and now I’m so tired, I think I’m going to go cry myself to sleep. Do you honestly think this is the best way to handle a disagreement?
Continuing to feel hurt because of a stone wall
Since we decided it was best to lose our tempers, lets continue to yell at each other all the annoying things we feel and see about one another. You can start by screaming obscenities out of your mouth and I’ll scream back at the same time. This is the most sensible way to get it out. Do you agree? It just turns me on when a man puts me down. I really enjoy the parts of the argument when I am used as a human body bag. Some may look at that as insane, but come on people this is reality. This kind of stuff happens all the time. You just might not know about it. Not everyone talks about this kind of stuff. The question is, why do we feel we deserve to treat each other in this manner?
Since we have been arguing to prove a point, we mine as well go into fight or flight mode. Why not just shut down? Their are so many reasons to why a person would go into fight or flight mode. It could be because of past hurts that were never fully healed. The argument could trigger past traumas that were never truly dealt with.
Are we set in our ways to keep a stone wall up?
Do you believe that part of the reasons we argue at stone walls is because we are set in our ways? I am a very stubborn individual. I was always told that being stubborn or set in my ways can be a good thing and a bad thing. As I got older, I learned how and when to be stubborn. For this reason, my mother always knew that I could not be peer pressured into doing something I didn’t want to do. If I did something, it was because I as an individual chose to do it. Which means that I understood the consequences of my actions. Does this mean I am selfish?
As a parent any decision I make affects not just me but those around me too. Everything is all fun and games until someone gets hurt. When do we know when we have gone too far? It’s like when you have two siblings growing up close in age and they start off joking around until one gets hurt and then boom the wall goes up.
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